Hey, I want to fill you in on the “bully” situation with my five year old son Bex in Kindergarten. In case you missed it, the first post is here on what happened last week and the follow up update post is here.
So, the latest: Saturday, two days ago, we went to M’s Birthday party, the boy who was pushing Bex too hard and too often (He shoved him several times in front of me last week on the school campus).
I wasn’t too nervous to go to the party, even though I hadn’t spoken to M’s Mom yet and I knew the teacher had talked with her about the situation.
What I didn’t know was if M’s mom knew that this has happened before, Bex being pushed down by M, in the first two weeks of school and that the teacher had to intervene then, too. (I still don’t know if she knows that.)
Well! M’s mom was lovely and very nice. When we arrived at their front door bearing our birthday gift bag and smiles, M saw Bex and shouted “BEXON! I just wanna CHASE Bexon!” Oh, dear…*cringe*
Later, when the life size Power Ranger was entertaining the boys in the back yard, M’s mom approached me where I was standing on the back porch.
She remarked that the teacher said we should schedule a play date with the boys where we supervise their interaction. I said that would be great.
The good news is that she couldn’t have been nicer and I think now that we have an open line of communication that our boys can be better friends.
(They already like each other a lot, Bex really wants to be friends with M- I think he was just a little scared and intimidated by him).
But I also found something out that puts a different light on everything. M’s mom told me that her son goes to therapy twice a week because he has a sensory processing disorder. OH!
Wow, I had no idea, and that could explain why he needs to learn how to touch and interact physically with other kids better, as she mentioned.
I’m not going to assume anything until I know more, but while it doesn’t make it okay for M to behave this way towards my child (or any other kids), this is a great lesson for this Mom (me) as a reminder not to make assumptions about things until I know all of the facts…
…that in almost all things in life, more will be revealed.
Thanks again for your help and comments, I do feel like I handled the situation just right so far and that everything is gonna be okay, fingers crossed.
My education in the school of life continues.