This week, there was an incident in my four year old son Bexon’s Pre-K and he was crying inconsolably. It wasn’t the teacher’s fault, Bex was being naughty and acting out, he’s spirited.
But the fact remains that no matter what, the law says his teachers cannot hug my child to console him.
In fact, they are legally not supposed to touch him at all. No gentle pat on the back. No helping him on and off with his pants to use the potty with the other kids, which is difficult for my boy, because he wears a scoliosis brace and it’s hard to bend and pull his own pants all the way back up.
But this is not just about children with special concerns or needs. I want the teachers to be able to touch my child when it’s the right thing to do. I DON’T CARE what the law says.
What have we come to as a paranoid nation if our crying small children cannot be held and comforted when we as parents are not there to hold them ourselves?
You know I am not talking about pedophiles. Note to pedophiles: Any person who brought my child serious emotional or physical harm will be killed, by me. I would cut off your balls and make you eat them. And you don’t want to meet my husband.
If my precious son were to die by someone’s hands, I would die anyway, so I would hunt you down. I would never, ever stop, I would find you. I would be the Terminator.
So that said. Most teachers are not pedophiles, for God’s sake! All my son’s teachers are sweet women who care about him. And still, we are considering changing his school because of this strict policy.
Bex doesn’t want to go back to his school where this happened on Monday. By the way, he was suspended on Tuesday for one day. Suspended from preschool! He’s four.
But when one teacher finally held him on her lap (against the rules), he stopped crying and was immediately fine. This teacher used to work in another country, where they always held the children, she tells us. (I’ll never say the names of the schools or the teachers here, they are all wonderful to Bexon. It’s the rules that suck.)
He’s asked us to change him back to his old school, which is less convenient for us as parents, but we will do it if it’s better for our child.
Now we found out both schools want him, they said it wasn’t the same without his energy in the class yesterday. Of course it wasn’t! He is a handful sometimes, but he’s an amazing, smart, funny, charismatic child.
Am I alone on this, on wanting my kid to be hugged at school in some circumstances? What do you think?