I’m in Mama Bear mode, y’all. And I need your help.
Breathe, breathe…okay, this morning I was dropping my five year old precious angel Bexon off at Kindergarten and as we were walking across the playground to join his class, Bex ran ahead of me.
I was watching him lovingly, he was wearing one of my favorite shirts of his, a bright blue Thomas the Train shirt, and my eyes were focused on his little blue back, nearly cured of scoliosis, as I saw another boy his age run up behind him and SHOVE my child for no reason.
Lots of other kids were darting across the campus to class, and at first I thought it was just a friendly shove, a way of saying “hello.” I tried to excuse it in my mind.
Bex didn’t fall, he stumbled and looked back and to his left, seeing a boy he clearly knows. My son didn’t push or fight back at all. Then the boy did it again. AND AGAIN. It all happened very fast, three times. Of course he didn’t know Bex’s mom was watching.
Now my radar was fully on, this boy was clearly picking on my kid! Then it hit me, a boy I’ll call M has already been in trouble for pushing Bex down two days in a row at recess, once Bex even got a cut on his side from it.
Last week, when I asked Bex about his day at school, he mentioned that M had been “benched” in other words, reprimanded and pulled out of play, for pushing Bex again.
Bex said it was because M “wanted the ball” that the pushing happened last week, but I can’t ignore the evidence that it is the SAME BOY who keeps coming up in this possible bullying conversation.
What’s weird is this morning M’s mother was with him, also walking a ways behind her child like I was. I couldn’t tell if she saw the pushing or not. She leaned in to tell her son something before she left, I don’t know if it was about that. She looks like a nice person, but I don’t know her.
She left and the two boys were standing next to each other in the schoolyard for a moment, so I walked up to Bex and asked softly “What is this boy’s name?” and Bex looked nervous and whispered “M” so that’s when I put two and two together that it was the same kid who pushed him before. GASP!
Then I couldn’t help myself, I leaned over to M and softly said “Don’t push Bexon.” The kid just looked at me. I said it nicely, I don’t know if it had any impact.
Now the plot thickens, because we got an email Birthday invitation for a boy who may be (probably is) the same M! I don’t know if I should make a big deal out of this before a birthday party, I don’t want Bex to be treated badly by the other kids at the party because his Mommy “meddled.”
Is this just boys will be boys? Should I intervene or let him fight his own battles at age 5? I’m taking a poll, and I would really appreciate your input!
Just click on one of these three choices and also feel free to include any additional thoughts or advice in the comments section. Thank you! This is my first time adding a poll to my blog, so I hope this works