Skinny Candy Cane Milkshake!


Hey kids, it’s that time of year again to throw crushed and pulverized candy canes into every dessert and treat.

In case you missed it, this recipe I made up last year has a sweet you won’t have any guilt about, it’s quick and easy to make and it’s only about 130 calories per shake.

Here’s the yummy and pretty healthy recipe, compared to most shakes:

Skinny Chocolate Candy Cane Milkshake.

I’m off to buy our Christmas tree!


~ Heidi

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Put Yourself in the Way of Beauty

monarch butterfly

“There’s a sunset and a sunrise every day. You can choose to be there for it, you can choose to put yourself in the way of beauty.”

~ Cheryl Strayed’s late mother Bobbi, from Wild.

I took this photo this week in the backyard of our new house, the house I cried I didn’t want to move into because in my emotional words, *sob* “I’ll never see a butterfly again!”

We had a lot of butterflies in our old backyard. I was afraid of losing that beauty.

Well, God has a spectacular way of proving me wrong.

Thank God.


~ Heidi

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Blue Desk

blue desk

In upheaval and change, dear loves, even when you go through something difficult or perhaps especially so then, there are always unexpected gifts.

When my family had to suddenly move, among other things I had to leave behind was the large, modern, white and black writing desk I began this blog on, where I mostly wrote it for four years.

It’s also where I wrote my first novel, Crooked Love, about my son’s illness.

I was sad to lose the desk, but it never belonged to me. I was just renting it along with the house, one of a few pieces of furniture we had that belonged to our former landlady and her husband.


I moved and needed a new place to write. To live many hours of my life sitting at, a place to pour out my second beating heart.

Oh just that. Continue reading

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Skinny Asparagus Cheese Soup!

skinny asparagus cheese soup

Yesterday I went out to lunch at a popular chain restaurant that is known for sandwiches, soups and salads.

It was tasty, but the soup was not much better than opening a can and the half panini sandwich was almost all bread.

There were hardly any actual veggies in the soup.

I left feeling sort of regretful, realizing it wasn’t exactly the healthiest lunch.

Empowered, I realized I can make my own soup today, baby.

This preparation is very similar to my Skinny Broccoli Cheese Soup, that one is divine, too.

Ingredients: (Makes about 3-4 bowls)

1.) 12 ounces of fresh asparagus, or about 20 spears.

2.) One cup of shredded cheese, I used one half cup of organic mozzarella and one half cup of 2% shredded mild cheddar.

(I don’t like reduced fat mozzarella, so I use regular for that one.)

3.) Three cups chicken broth, I used low sodium organic chicken broth. Or use veggie broth instead.

4.) 3/4 cup diced yellow onion.

5.) Four tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese. I used the Kraft shaky kind.

6.) One tablespoon salted butter.

7.) Four tablespoons non fat or 0% plain Greek yogurt, I like Fage.

8.) Two tablespoons half n’ half.

9.) 2-5 cloves fresh garlic, peeled. Use less or none if you’re not a garlic lover. I am, I think it cures what ails you.

10.) Seasonings: Flexible. I used a couple dashes of garlic salt (Lawry’s) and pepper and added a sprinkle of cheddar and dried parsley for garnish.


Wash the asparagus, cut off the rough/whitish ends and add to a non stick pan with a few splashes of broth.

Put the lid on and steam on medium high heat until still bright green, but very fork tender. About 7-8 minutes.

Remove from the heat and put on a plate or chopping board to cool.

Meanwhile, slice up the garlic cloves and chop up the onion. Put them in an extra large nonstick pan or any pot with the butter.

Saute on medium heat, putting the lid on and stirring occasionally, until the onions and garlic are cooked and fragrant- I like them a little brown at the edges.

Into the same cooked onion/butter pan, now add the half n’ half, one cup of the chicken broth, the cheeses, both shredded and grated parm, a few good dashes of any herbs and seasonings you like.

Stir that together until the cheeses melt into the mix.

Meanwhile, chop up the steamed asparagus in one inch pieces, reserving some of the top tips for garnish, if desired. Then just toss it in your blender (or use a food processor).

Add the two remaining cups of chicken broth to the blender (Tip: My blender is plastic, not glass- so I use this broth room temperature or cold, it doesn’t have to be heated, yet).

Blend on liquify. Add the warm cheesy mixture from the pan, just pour it in and blend it all together until creamy.

Pour it back into the large pan or pot, reheat and serve in cups or bowls with the optional garnishes on top.

Mmmm! This is sooo good.

Calories: The whole batch is about 900 calories or less, divided by 4 that’s 225 calories per serving, by 3 it’s only 300.



~ Heidi

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Ojai Lioness Statue

lioness statue girl to mom

I’m a little late in giving my Thanksgiving update, but we spent it in Ojai, California, (pronounced Oh-hi) which is about an hour and a half north of Los Angeles by car, with Bexon’s Nana Linda and Opa (German for Grandpa) Eckart.

Ojai is nestled in mountains and is very quiet and beautiful. About a five minute walk from Nana’s house is a place called The Krotona Institute.

It has an open-to-the-public public whisper and prayer garden (as long as you behave) with flowers and butterflies and a lioness statue that has this moving plaque:

lioness statue sign krotona institute

I felt an energy as I touched her forehead, I really did. I prayed for many people I know and for their children. Continue reading

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Funny Women Power Books

how to be a woman book cover

I’ve been reading a lot of books lately by interesting, hilarious and intelligent women.

There is an abundance of riches right now in the memoir/essay category, which is my favorite genre. A cornucopia of badassery, if you will.

You can’t go wrong with Tina Fey’s Bossypants or Jenny Lawson’s Let’s Pretend This Never Happened, but there are a few new ones I recommend right now:

1.) How To Be A Woman by Caitlan Moran. (pronounced Cat-lin)

If you like British humor and I very much do, and if you at all consider yourself a feminist, this cyclone bullet of a memoir is a must buy.

At times I adored Moran so much I wanted to eat her like a cheese lollipop, other times I honestly cringed, but she is simply fascinating, brave, bold and important.

If you read Tina Fey’s book and thought she was ballsy, this will blow you away.

Moran covers very touchy subjects including her view on modern porn and its effect on women and abortion, her own, after becoming a mother.

It’s pretty grisly and I will be using birth control even as I approach the sunset of my minge.

Her birth story is one of the worst I’ve ever heard that resulted in a healthy child. My personal nightmare that didn’t come true for me. How lucky I was.

I didn’t always agree with Caitlan, but I was riveted. Riveted. It’s also laugh out loud funny.

Stick your hand in your pants, do you have a vagina? If yes, then I would read this book.

2.) Yes, Please by Amy Poehler.

It’s been said that women love Amy Poehler and I think that’s generally true.

I like her TV show Parks and Recreation and I love her hosting awards shows with Tina Fey (together, they are the best hosts evah,) I enjoyed her on SNL, but I’m really not crazy about her Old Navy commercials.

However. Her book is fantastic. It’s very, very funny and full of solid life advice, plus Amy has “the Angelina Jolie of vaginas.”

My only complaint about this book is that Poehler apologizes for it too much in the forward, she doesn’t need to at all. It may have been hard to write, as she writes that it was, but it’s must read.

I’m sad she got a divorce from Will Arnett, but the silver lining is how beautifully she writes about her pain, I bet it’s helping a lot of other people.

Here’s a quote on her divorce which applies to other big things in life that break your heart:

“Someday you will wake up feeling 51 percent happy and slowly, molecule by molecule, you will feel like yourself again.”

Some other Amy quotes:

“Your brain is not your friend when you need to apologize.”

“Fighting aging is like the War on Drugs. It’s expensive, does more harm than good, and has been proven to never end.”
Continue reading

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Olive Oil Bath

jacaranda flowers

This is an easy DIY idea that came to me when I had a professional hair blow out this week and didn’t want to take a hot shower, lest I frizz my pretty hair and not make it last.

I also have sensitive and dry skin and after I shower, I have to cover my entire bod head to feet in lotion.

I still love Everyone lotion from Amazon or Whole Foods, it’s inexpensive, paraben free and feels super soft on my skin. I usually use the citrus mint or the lavender scented one.

I love lavender scent at night, I find it very soothing. A hot shower relaxes my muscles and sore feet and I sleep better after the hydrotherapy.

Then I had a simple idea that has changed my life: Continue reading

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