It appears there are a lot more women who are into kinky sexual experimentation than perhaps many of us previously thought. Women are secret freaks- whoo!
There are reports the racy, BDSM-themed novel is causing a “mini baby boom.” Babycenter.com reports moms on their message boards are revealing their pregnancies are directly related to the book.
I can’t believe they are actually admitting it, can you?
This story is notable, to me, for where we are in society at the moment. BDSM meaning: Bondage/Discipline Domination/Submission.
I have to laugh a little bit at the idea of these poor innocent babies being born with adult sized cages and manacles in their parent’s bedrooms- ACK!
Most of us know the basic plot of Grey, but in case you missed it so far, here is a brief summary from Wikipedia:
“Anastasia Steele (Ana) is a young college student who is drafted by her best friend Katherine Kavanagh to interview the successful young entrepreneur Christian Grey for their student newspaper.
Ana finds him attractive, confident, commanding, and intimidating. She leaves the interview convinced it went badly; she tries to forget about Grey until he turns up at the hardware store where she works part-time.
After Grey leaves the hardware store, Ana realizes that she likes him. Grey tries to warn her that he is not a “heart and flowers” kind of guy, but this makes Ana want him more and want to uncover his secret.
Grey also admits he wants her for her beauty, wit, and independent spirit, but on his own terms. Ana is shocked to learn Grey’s singular erotic taste. Grey proposes a BDSM relationship, which Ana knows nothing about.
When the couple embarks on a passionate, physical and daring affair, Ana learns more about her own dark desires, as well as the Christian Grey secrets.”
I should probably say that I’m no prude as you well know, in fact I just made some very R-rated sex jokes this morning on Twitter that were total lies, I seem to have created a fictional character/alter ego on there (Miss Boobalicious) who is not me 80% of the time, but it’s silly, raunchy fun. It makes me laugh.
The flip side is that my little boy Bex, age 5, is getting an MRI today at Children’s Hospital with full anesthesia to check on his dangerous Syrinx spinal cyst which could paralyze him, so these are the extremes of my life. In other words, I understand people wanting to escape into fantasy. Reality can be painful and often scary, I’m all for having adult fun as long as it’s consensual.
What I don’t lie about on Twitter is that I do love sex and my 40’s are my most sexual time, ever. It’s probably because my body knows my eggs are running out.
Now, regarding the idea of bondage: Most of us have bought at least a pair of joke handcuffs covered in red fur or feathers from a “pleasure” shop to use once or twice with our honey. And of course those edible panties and flavored heating oils…(that always taste terrible), who hasn’t tried those?
They even have bacon flavored lube, so yeah, there are a lot of options for whatever you’re into.
In a way, joke handcuffs alone really are bondage and domination/submission right there. I guess it all depends on how far you take it. Spanking seems pretty normal to me, although it’s probably not for everybody. Sexy hair pulling also gets a lot of play on Twitter.
I personally get my vagina hair ripped out by the roots with hot wax, so I think I know something about pain for pleasure.
Part of me thinks that if I’m ever gonna be kinky, do it now while my body still looks good. I don’t think I want to imagine elderly kinky people (shudder).
Anyway, “Grey” is not going away, because they’re making a movie about it that one of my friends, Dana Brunetti (“The Social Network”) is producing. I suspect the Christian far right Bible Belt must be a little freaked out by all of this. (I’m Christian, but pretty liberal as you can tell…) Then again, the quiet ones can often be the kinkiest behind closed doors.
I would love to know your thoughts, is society getting wilder because of “Grey,” or has it been that way secretly all along and now we’re just talking about it more?
Personally, I think experimentation, if it spices up your love life, is a good thing. But I’m not buying or getting into any cage.