I’m a woman with a sometimes raunchy and often wildly inappropriate sense of humor, and I stand firmly behind Freedom of Speech.
But that said, I’m not afraid to go on the record and say that jokes about raping women or children are NEVER funny.
There’s this comedian Daniel Tosh (who I also think is never funny) who is all over the media this week because he was doing a performance at the Hollywood Laugh Factory comedy club and was called out by a female audience member for making jokes about rape.
“Tosh (started) making some very generalizing, declarative statements about rape jokes always being funny, how can a rape joke not be funny, rape is hilarious,” the woman wrote on her friend’s Tumblr page.
She wrote that she felt provoked and then yelled out to Tosh “Actually, rape jokes are never funny!”
This woman has been attacked by a lot of Tosh jerky fans for being a heckler. I think she was and is brave and awesome. She did the right thing, when good people go silent evil can fester and thrive.
I assume Tosh has never been the victim of sexual violence. I’m so happy for his white virgin asshole. But one in three women have, and it’s likely that one of those women was in his audience that night.
“After I called out to him, Tosh paused for a moment,” she wrote, “Then, he says, “Wouldn’t it be funny if this girl got raped by like, 5 guys right now? Like right now? What if a bunch of guys raped her…”
He actually threatened this woman publicly.
That’s not a joke. It’s misogynistic if not dangerous, he might have encouraged some audience members to attack her after the show.
Am I the only one who feels sick from reading that? Can you imagine the courage it took for this woman to stand up to him in front of a room full of his fans who were probably mostly buzzed or drunk and on his side?
I’ll tell you why this isn’t okay, in my opinion, even though I enjoy humor that pushes the line. It’s because joking about rape, making light of it, makes it more socially acceptable.
Especially to the young male fans who worship this Tosh moron who unfortunately hosts a very popular show called “Tosh.O” on Comedy Central, where he tells racist and sexist jokes all of the time. I’ve seen the show and it’s beyond stupid.
Point is though, I’ve spoken to young people age 12-16 who worship him. They think he’s hilarious. So, by making light of five guys raping a woman, I believe he makes it more acceptable for these boys to say, date rape a girl, or gang rape a passed out drunk girl at a party. “See, Tosh said it’s FUNNY!” Not f*cking evil, which in reality it is.
I don’t have to tell you that rape is used in war to break people’s human spirit. That’s what rape does, and of course courageous survivors of rape can heal and go on to lead amazing lives, yes, but it’s nothing to ever joke about, period. Children are raped every day in this world. I doubt it’s any man’s dream to be raped in prison, either. Let me be clear: it will never be funny.
Tosh weakly “apologized” via Twitter, writing, “…all of the context misquotes aside, i’d like to sincerely apologize. The point i was making before I was heckled is there are awful things in the world but you can still make jokes about them.” Then he added the hashtag #deadbabies (!)
Yeah, dead babies are hilarious, especially when they’re yours. I hope he never has to experience that kind of horrific loss.
Some things you can’t joke about, asshole. Not unless you want to lose your job. I hope she sues him for reckless endangerment.