Cyber Sexting

There’s a new Twitter app in the Apple Store called Vine that allows users to upload and post six second looping videos on Twitter. Naturally, it’s already being used for, we’ll call it “Porm.”

(I don’t want to repeatedly use the real word for “porm” here, lest Google search bots think this is a “porm” site. Ahem.)

Anyway, I’m no prude, to say the least, ha- but lately I’ve been thinking about how all of this new technology can affect young women and just women in general.

Recent surveys say that approximately 20% of teens have sent naked or semi-nude pictures of themselves over their phones, cyber photo sexting. I totally understand the thrill of it- they get in a naughty mood, in many cases they’re drunk or high, and they shoot a sexy picture of themselves. A lot of times their boyfriend asks them to. Begs.

I’m sure many of them do it in the name of love. But don’t forget there’s a thin line between love and hate, chicas.

At first they may be embarrassed, but after they’ve sent it- BOOM! They feel a high. It’s a rush, the high that comes from doing something forbidden. Anyway, who’s it going to hurt?

Well, I’ve mentioned in a recent post there are these revenge “porm” sites where ex-boyfriends are encouraged to upload nude photos and videos of their exes, neighbors or even strangers or along with their real names and personal information, including their social media links, like their Facebook profile.

When the women ask to have their pictures removed from the site, they’re asked for their credit card information, so it sounds like they’re cyber blackmailed. Yuck.

Some of these women are taking part in a class action lawsuit and of course I’m on their side all the way, but an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, girls.

My serious live in boyfriend when I was 19-21 once convinced me to allow him to shoot some video of us having sex. Yes, there’s a sex tape out there of me somewhere, unless it’s been destroyed (I asked him to destroy it later and he said he did.)

If it somehow survived, which I doubt because videotape deteriorates, and he posted it online, which I’m sure he wouldn’t, he’s a good guy- but IF, I would probably look pretty fantastic in it because I was 19.

I posted a photo of myself here last week (in bra) and if anyone wants to use it with my name, be my guest.

And that is my advice, girls, don’t photo share, text, email or post on social media anything that you would not want the whole world to see.

This goes ditto for video, don’t shoot a sex video unless you want it screened for your parents, your Grandma and everyone from work and high school. And church.

And by the way, if you shoot video that ends up on YouPorm, it might still be up there for your grandchildren- yikes. Because, it’s digital now, the Internet is written in ink, y’all.

I know it’s not for everybody, but if you’re not underage, I don’t blame you if you want to send sexy photos of your gorgeous hot body parts, just CUT OFF YOUR FACE! I don’t mean literally, but just shoot the body parts alone in photographs, and please don’t take pictures of your vagina, because eww.

Guys: If you take a picture of your penis, use artful lighting and props, girls love a classy dick pic! (Not really.)

But women, you are limited to butt and chest images, no face, those are the rules. Don’t have anything in the picture that identifies that it’s you. It could be anybody. You can deny it later, if you need to.

Even if you’re married, stick to my rules because the bastard could get caught with that bitch Kiffany from Facebook bouncing on his lap and you don’t want him to have anything on you in the divorce.

That’s my bossy advice for the day, hope this helps! Now let the cyber flashing commence.

XOXO-

~ H