I just read about this new fad that women are trying to have the best orgasm of their lives during childbirth. Have you heard about this trend?
My first reaction is that A: I’m all for natural childbirth without painkillers for people who want to go that way. And B: I consider myself very liberal about sexual things between consenting adults, as long as they’re not hurting anybody.
I may not want to buy a sex swing with a ball gag mask, but if you do, hey, swing away in your furry plushie giant squirrel costume!
Apparently, these couples are planning this amazing “O” ahead of time and during the birth the partner touches the woman romantically, etc. I guess massaging her boobies. For God’s sake, I hope not her clit in front of the doctors!
Am I the only one who thinks that the poor baby is just trying to get OUT AND BREATHE OXYGEN for the first time and that maybe the mother trying to get sexual pleasure out of it is a little selfish?
I mean, can’t the friggin’ baby just be born and grow up before being used as a sex toy? And for God’s sake, don’t tell that kid when they do grow up! Gross!
I envy women who can have babies naturally and easily without too much horrifying pain. I myself am terrified of pain, I’ve had way too much of it in my female organs due to a bad condition called Endometriosis, which I’ve had since high school and caused me excruciating pain during my monthly periods until I had surgery for it in my late 20′s.
For that reason and others I was fine with having a C-section (I had an emergency one due to yet another condition I had called preeclampsia during pregnancy which can cause you to “stroke out” and worst case, can case death to both mother and baby.)
But even if I had not had an emergency C, I TOTALLY would’ve gone for the epidural, which I loved. I’d take one right now if they’d give it to me.
I guess my thinking is, you want an alive, healthy baby and if you get an amazing feeling from it, awesome bonus girlfriend, but first let’s just focus on keeping your newborn healthy and alive.
I mean, what happens if you plan this orgasm and it doesn’t work? Do you blame the baby and start off this relationship with resentment instead of bonding?
I understand that the birth canal is the same place certain things go IN to give us pleasure, so the baby’s head is hitting all of those same spots, in theory.
But by that same token, it’s nice to have your neck stroked, but having somebody pound it with a small watermelon doesn’t feel so hot, does it?
Well, to each her own. I’m just glad I don’t have any awkward birth sex video I have to hide and hope my kiddo never discovers when he’s 16.
X- hf
I have heard of women experiencing this, but not PLANNING it. Sounds a bit selfish to me, but I don’t want kids, so what do I know?
http://www.sporkgasm.blogspot.com
Ew! I do not want my child involved in any of my orgasms… well, except for the one that created him.
http://www.verystrangebird.com
This is completely disturbing….on many levels!
http://www.curvybaby.com
I do get how it could happen, but to plan it? If you weren’t on my Blogroll, I just wouldn’t know about this kind of stuff
http://www.weezafish.blogspot.com
I’m here for the important news! Ha.
Yes, it’s true and actually quite common! I’ve heard it happen mostly at homebirth situations, and the theory is that at home the woman is much more relaxed and confident because it’s ‘her turf’, as opposed to an impersonal hospital. When husband and wife kiss and/or touch, this instantly relaxes the pelvic muscles (there is a direct relation between facial muscles and pelvic ones– if the jaw is unclenched and relaxed, so will the muscles that allow for baby to come down the birth canal.) So the idea of orgasmic birth actually makes sense because the most enjoyment the mom feels from the experience, the easier, faster and less painful it will all be. And all of these things are great for the baby too, because it decreases the chances of any fetal distress. It’s a win-win, and not selfish at all; though I totally understand why in our over sexualized society, so disconnected from natural child birth, we’re programmed to see it as such
http://www.helpmeorillkickyou.wordpress.com
Thanks for your comment, very interesting about the facial muscles being connected!
I am currently pregnant and heard about this. I am also a “give me all the drugs” kinda girl. I’m not against natural childbirth, and have many friends who are 100% granola moms, who would probably eat their own placentas raw, given the chance. However, I think it is SUPER creepy to have an orgasm while birthing. I don’t want my kid to have anything to do with orgasms ever, aside from conception, obviously. I say “ew”. Judge me if you’d like, but “ew”.
http://www.perkytits.blogspot.com
I think I’m in the ew camp, too. Do you really have perky tits?
I do have Perky Tits right now, because of pregnancy. However, the blog started as our Susan G Komen 3 day team blog. My husband’s nickname from skydiving is Perky, and I am his tits.
http://www.perkystits.blogspot.com
YIKES! My blog is perkystits.blogspot.com I don’t know what perkytits might lead to! I would guess something that is not affiliated with saving boobs or being pregnant…
http://www.perkystits.blogspot.com
Oh no! I missed the S! Ha, sorry!!!
my first reaction is EW! but after reading the comment above about it relaxing the mom – i can see RELAXING the mom in the hopes of easing the birth. i had three of my four naturally without too much pain in two of the three cases. that being said – i was no where NEAR the “o” and i can tell you i wouldn’t have wanted to be. maybe in a home birth i would have felt differently, but i doubt it. and i am with the above commenter – without you on my blogroll i wouldn’t know half the shit i know now. ;o) thanks for keeping me INFORMED. ;o)
http://www.monica-adayinthelife.blogspot.com
I have NO idea how someone could be able to literally orgasm while in the process of childbirth (and I do get the whole relaxing principle..). I don’t now if I’m impressed or creeped out. Mostly I just don’t believe it.
http://www.neurotic.nu
It’s possible that this trend arose from another phenomenon. There’s a reflex arc connecting the clitoris and the cervix, wherein direct clitoral stimulation leads to dilation of the cervical os. Soon to be parents who’ve been made aware of this connection and who have a certain DIY spirit have been known to take advantage of it to try to facilitate the process of childbirth. Perhaps it led to other endeavors?